Isn’t it scary

Isn’t it scary how we can never tell what a person is really thinking?

Isn’t it scary how the person we think loves themselves, despises every part of their body?

Isn’t it scary that we would never know that someone cries themselves to sleep every night but they are so cheerful in the day…

Isn’t it scary to think about the amount of stuff you’ve gone through in your life..everyone else has gone through stuff too, nobody gets out without a scar.

Isn’t it scary how some people think money=happiness .. Including myself for awhile, but now that I have money I know that it doesn’t. You can’t fill your heart with material things, you need to fill your heart with love.

Isn’t it scary how you can date a girl that seems really nice and innocent but can turn into a psycho ex FAST? Hahaha.. That ones kind of a joke..

Isn’t it scary that none of us know each other’s daily struggles and it stays within us until we choose to tell someone..

Isn’t it scary that the person who laughs the most and the loudest could be feeling extremely lonely inside.

Isn’t it scary to think that even though we are all born into this world the exact same way with no choice in the matter..some people believe they are better than others because of their race, religion, gender, wealth, intelligence, sexuality, the family they came from, the location of their house, any other reason people judge people.

Isn’t it scary to think that some people would read this, not flinch and continue to be a shit human with disregard for others.

Isn’t it scary to KNOW that people can slowly break down throughout life because of other people’s unkindness and the worlds cruelty. The dreams that they had as a little boy/girl and teenager slowly die inside them until there’s nothing left and they give up.

This could be happening to anybody you know. It’s not easy to see and it’s not up to you to analyse someone but what you can do is be kinder towards everyone you come across. We all face battles everyday and some of us are stronger than others, but there is no need to make life harder by being a shit human. Life=Life.. Every single persons life in this world matters and we are all equal.

We can never know what people go through day to day but we can make their day easier by not judging and being unkind in any way. Think before you act/speak. Don’t play on and point out people’s insecurities. Don’t whisper and laugh about people you see passing by. You wouldn’t like that done to you so don’t do it to someone else. Nobody should feel like if they are going to be themselves they’re going to get abuse. Everybody should have the chance and the confidence to be the way that’s most comfortable to them.

To me, someone’s dreams dying is very unfortunate.

Someone dying as a result of that is an absolute tragedy.

Don’t fuel the fire, be happy be kind and help people, there’s enough problems in this world.. We don’t need to create any more.

Keep your dreams alive and stay on track!

Peace x x

Build a Bridge

Well I’m back home in Ireland. I’ve been abroad for awhile and I had the time of my life. The weather was beautiful, I met some amazing and crazy people from all over the world, I saw loads of animals! (That was my favourite part) I saw spectacular views and experienced things that would never happen in Ireland. I was around Asia and Eastern Europe for the most part. I’m so glad I got to get away and I think I learnt a lot.

But unfortunately, my blog is not about my trip.

I was away for about three weeks and towards the last week I kind of lost control of my mind and myself. I made seriously stupid decisions. Unfortunately I got myself into a bad state again. Surprise surprise.. I took drugs and I drank loads. I doubt there was a few hours in that week that I was actually sober.. I got really inside my head and low in myself so I felt like numbing my emotions all the time. I drank excessively and took pills and powder that I really had no idea what the effects could be…I always prove myself to be a fucking idiot.

Anyways, I would have carried on like that no bother until there was no going back but I experienced two things. During the week I got the highest I’ve ever been in my whole life and I decided to take a bath with all of my clothes on. I was staying in this fellas house that I didn’t know very well, I was exhausted and off my head but I still thought I should have a bath. I have no idea why I left my clothes on or anything but long story short I passed out. I was so out of it I didn’t even realise where I was I just had to sleep. Luckily I was found shortly after but it could have been dangerous but what’s even more dangerous to me is why the fuck I even did that.. It’s fucked up and it’s not funny, it’s pretty sad tbh that I let myself be that out of control. The come down was absolutely horrible and right now it feels like it was all a bad dream.

The other thing that was my wake up call was again, on another come down. I was on a walk on my own 2 days after that incident and I was trying to clear my head and body and I just stopped and stared at this huge bridge crossing the river. And those horrible thoughts started racing through my mind.

I wonder what it would be like to jump off that bridge .. I wonder what would happen if I jumped into the river .. It would be so easy to leave this pain behind and the whole thing would be over in a second ..

I seriously sat and thought about it for awhile .. And then I got really scared. I started panicking at the thought I’d never see my little brother again, or I’d never hug my nana again, or see anyone else that I love and I realised my head was in a very very bad place. I had sworn to myself I’d never let myself go back there and have those thoughts again.

I knew I had to go home. I am so mad at myself for getting into that state again but sometimes it is too hard to fight and your mind wins. Your thoughts take over and control all your feelings..theres a trigger, and then a breaking point and I had passed mine.

Since then the way I look at life has changed..I’m all into symbols and metaphors and shit haha so basically..there’s often times in everybody’s life that feel like a crossroads..but there’s an obstacle in the way and this obstacle is what’s stopping you from choosing which path to go down..The obstacle is a bridge. You’re not very happy about this bridge but you need to make a decision. You can use the bridge and get over it and see what’s on the other side..Or you can jump off it and never see what it’s like after the bridge.

I’ve decided to get over it. My reason behind this is, if you’re feeling like I felt, and you think you are a bad person today… Be a better person tomorrow. Keep bettering yourself until you find peace in your mind that yeah, you’re actually a good person and you’re worthwhile in this world. Good people make bad decisions, it doesn’t make you a horrible person for life.

I believe that I try my best to be a good person because (probably unsurprisingly 😐) I’m actually a very emotional person and the greatest feeling in the world to me is making someone happy. Likewise, I feel it very deeply when I upset someone and I care so much about everyone in my life. I’m a hard worker and I’m trying so hard to keep everything in my life balanced and stable..especially my mind. I want to make people proud…not disappointed. I just know deep down that I don’t have a lot of badness in my heart and all I want to do is show everyone else that. So I’m trying to cut out making bad decisions so that I never feel that low in myself again.

Now that I’m back in Ireland I’m trying to find peace and happiness once again. I’m keeping busy by working long hours, but I like it because I don’t have too much time to think about things. When I’m finished work Ill go to bed. And do it all again every day. Its very hard but I think it’s what I need to be doing right now to build myself back up again. If I was doing fuck all I’d go out of my mind and stay depressed. It’s tough that I’m back in this position to be honest…but I’m hopeful that I’ll be okay again soon.

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At the end of the day I’m 22 years of age, I’ve made mistakes and I’m learning from them, I still have time to turn my life around and be the good person I wanna be.

So although this blog started off happy and I did have an amazing trip, I probably depressed the life out of you with the rest of the blog so I’m sorry for that. I find it easier to write about low points in my life because it helps me get it off my chest and move on. That’s why if you don’t see any blogs for awhile I’m probably doing okay and don’t need to share anything haha.. I hate being a depresso though..I do try my best to have some positive spins on my blogs..

So there you go… I’m basically just gonna keep my head down and work away, and stick to bettering myself and feeling good about who I am. If I can do that, I WILL be happy. And if YOU stick to that too..I know that you will be happy too! 😊

Thanks for reading, and if you didn’t like it and you’re pissed off I wasted your precious time, well please build a bridge and get over it hahah

Laters x

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One More Shot

So this past month a lot of things have changed for me. For the better. I’m happier than I’ve ever been in the last year and things are finally starting to go my way. Which is ironic because a month ago I wanted so desperately to end it all and leave this world because I never thought I’d be okay again. But something stopped me and I’m still here. I’m okay. I’m great actually and I’ve never been more happy about making a decision to give life one more shot in my life. I would have missed out on all of this.

I got a new job in the beginning of June it was construction work so some of it was new to me but I’ve learnt so much over the past couple of weeks and that makes me feel really good. It’s seasonal work so I’m finishing up the current job next week. I’ve worked really hard so I’ve decided to reward myself by jetting off to Thailand next week 😊 I can’t fucking wait. I’m going with my brother his mate and my best mate. Were going to go island hopping and just basically have an adventure! It’s exactly what I need and I’ve never been this excited for something in a long time.

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I’m not saying things are perfect, there is definitely still problems but I’m stronger and a lot happier so I’ve the confidence to get through them. I’ve turned a corner in my life and I think it was fate. That sounds gay but I was in such a dark place last month and I could have finished it all but I didn’t and now I don’t think I will ever be like that again. It gets better, and I’ve gotten better. I’ll always remember that and you should too! If you’re feeling like I was, give it one last shot.. And maybe in a few weeks you will be thanking god you didn’t make the wrong decision.

Be happy and stay happy! 😊

Laters Guys !! x

New Direction

The title of this blog is an absolute piss take because as you all know good ole Zayn has left One Direction and I’m sorta/kinda in a band, which is a brand new thing for me so I thought the title was a good fit hahaha

Anyways, I’m not sure if we can be called a band yet and my 14 year old knacker/spicer self would absolutely rip it out of me for even thinking of being in a band, but how and ever it might be on the cards for me. 14 year old Dean was an idiot anyway and I like to think I’ve grown a few more brain cells since my mullet styling and diamond earring wearing days (please god).

This all came about when I was watching the film Whiplash during the week and I got serious cravings to get back playing the drums. I used to play now and again when I was 18,19 and sort of let it die, I never lost interest I just focused on other things like drink drugs and girls (good one Dean). Now that I’m staying away from all of those things I think its a good time to get back playing. So I rang an old mate up who was shocked enough to hear from me but nevertheless wanted to catch up which was happy days. This chap is a massive music head and he plays a bit of every instrument but he’s mainly all about the guitar. He has a drum kit set up in his gaff so he gave me a shot of that and to be honest I was fairly rusty. I’ve been practicing during the week though and the rhythm is slowly coming back to me 🙂 It’s a great laugh and its good to take my mind off things. Jamie (the music head) has a few mates that are the same as him and he jams with them all the time so who knows a band could form haha definitely won’t be called new direction though, but it is a new direction for me at least. Obviously were not taking it seriously like half of us have full time jobs its just good craic and they’re a great group of lads that I haven’t talked to in ages so its nice catching up on the last few years.

So that’s it, my life has definitely changed in the last while, I’ve stayed off the drink & drugs despite there being two of my mates birthdays this week, I’ve gone to the gym and a few walks and even done some reading. I much prefer writing to reading but I’ll try my best to keep it up, I’ve gone to all of my counselling sessions and most importantly.. I’m happy 🙂 My head is healthy and clear and at the moment I’m just having a good laugh with a new mix of people. So maybe my 14 year old self wouldn’t be too embarrassed of me after all …

Laters !! 🙂