How to get over someone

1. Do You
If you loved someone and it broke down and you’re trying to move on, the first thing to do is focus on yourself. Think about the way you want to be, your goals for the future, HOW you’re going to make yourself happy.

When I was trying to get over someone this year it felt like it would never happen. Of course you can take your few days to have a cry and feel sorry for yourself or if you’re me get off your head hammered. But after that you need to snap out of it and realise it’s over and the sooner you realise that the sooner you will be happy. I decided I was going to put all of my effort into work. I was going to earn loads of money, save up, move out and travel, which would hopefully make me happy. I’ve been doing that all Summer and I feel really proud for how hard I’ve worked and how far I’ve come.

2. Chill with the lads/girls
Your mates love you and they don’t want to see you sad over some bastard/bitch. You should have a rule that yous never mention their name in convo. Chill out, go cruising, go on a night out, do anything that takes your mind off what you’re feeling because you’ll soon realise 2 hours has passed and you haven’t thought about them once. Do not isolate yourself and listen to achy breaky love songs… trust me..it won’t help.

3. Delete and Block it all
Those photos you have on your phone are no good to you now, they will only make you sad/pissed off. Delete them all so you don’t have to see them ever again. Block your ex on everything, because we all know you be checking their whatsapp last seen like there’s no tomorrow wondering who they’re texting, why are they online, and worst of all sending drunk texts that don’t fucking delete from the convo. Block all that shit, you don’t need the stress of that. Out of sight, out of mind.

4. “I miss you”
This WILL happen. No matter what they did.. It will suddenly hit you that you miss them. You will want to text or ring them and hear their voice or have a chat, maybe try work things out?
This is because at one point you did love them but you miss what you HAD. Most of the time you do not miss THEM. You hear a song, or see something that reminds you of them and you’re hit with a PANG. When this happens think about the bad things, why it broke down in the first place.. How annoying they can be.. How they never shut the fuck up.. How mean they can be.. How THEY haven’t text/called you once..Whatever it is about them that you don’t like, fucking focus on that shit and make sure it’s all you think about when they unfortunately come into your head. Remember that they’re not missing you.

5. Get with someone else
This is selfish but I believe it has to happen. You need the attention and you need to know you still got it. Go out and talk to someone you like, and be with them. It can just be a one night thing, no strings attached but being with someone else will make you feel better in the long run. You realise you can have other people and that down the line there will be somebody else for you. And if nothing else, it’s sex so end of argument haha.

6. Give it enough time
Getting over someone you really loved is never going to be an easy or quick process. I seriously think it’s one of the hardest things to go through in life but if you give yourself enough time and enough space away from that person you should feel your heart slowly mending itself and after awhile you feel a lot stronger than you did when it first happened.

7. Realise what you’re worth
Now I’m pretty sure you are all wonderful people but unfortunately not many people give themselves the credit. You need to value yourself and recognise that you need to be treated WELL. Nobody deserves to be treated badly and you should never let anyone do that to you. Gain back your confidence and learn to love yourself. Which is a VERY hard thing to do for some people, including myself, but once you do…you find happiness. Write down one thing you like about yourself everyday until you have a long list. Once you feel good about yourself you will feel positive about YOUR future and not dwell in the past.

8. Keep Busy
After these 7 things a few weeks maybe months should have passed, and through doing these things you should encounter new people and new things. So all of a sudden you realise that you haven’t thought about them all day. You don’t even care who they’re texting or what they’re up to because you’re busy with YOUR life. You’re on your way to achieving your goals whatever they may be and you might even like someone else who’s making you forget about them completely. For the first time in a long time you know you’re going to be okay.. which means you’re well on the road to happiness.

It took me a long time to get through these steps especially since I have BPD and when I love someone I reaaaally love them and when it ends it can feel like my whole world is falling apart and there’s no point in even being here. It can get very bad. But I’ve changed my mindset and literally forced myself out of bed so many times so that I can go out and better myself.  A few months down the line I’m finally happy, I’m seeing someone I really really like and care about, (She loves me 😉), and I’m working hard towards my goals.

You deserve to be happy and if you’re going through a break up I feel for you. But don’t stay at the pity party too long because the rest of your life is waiting and life is extremely short. Try spend it happy.

Thanks for reading I hope it helps someone.

Peace x

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FuckGirls

So just about everybody has heard the term ‘fuckboy’ at this stage. It’s going around a lot nowadays but incase you don’t know what it means it’s basically what was formerly known as a prick/player/dick/bastard to women.. Whichever you like yourself hahah.. Generally it’s the type of guy that leads girls on, messes with their head, looking for one thing blah blah I’m sure you know one or two off the top of your head 😊

To be completely honest with ya I’ve been called a fuck boy a few times haha but “of course” I don’t think I am.. Maybe I was.. But I really don’t think so anymore.. At least I try my very hardest not to be.

Anyways this blog is not about fuckboys because tbh us men get a pretty bad rep the whole time and it’s hard for us to fight back cause in fairness to girls they do have a lot of evidence to go on and BY FUCK are they good at getting that evidence hahaha …

BUT there are fuckgirls too. Or fuckgirlos if you’re from Dublin and you’re dealing with these moths that think they are the bees knees like, hunreal. When really they’re a walking STI…By Deans definition they are a head melter/ teaser/ mindfucker / or basically just a heartless bitch..in case you didn’t understand what I was getting at hahah but unfortunately for us blokes they are usually unreal looking and what’s in our jocks controls a lot of what we do and think… and anyways you can’t really be playing people with a face like Freddie Krueger now can ya? Hard to get?! You’re hard to want! Hahahaha

These girls will chew you up and spit you out on the daily. They think you’re going to hurt them so they hurt you first. Yeno why? Because they’ve been hurt in the past..

Who the fuck hasn’t?

They tease you, flirt their hole off with you, leave you thinking you’re DA FOOKIN MAN, LAD of all lads, make you feel like you’re in there like bleedin’ swimwear but then nothing. They don’t want anything.. “They’re not that kinda girl”. Yeah fucking right… They hook you with a good sense of humour and some interesting shit to say and if you’re anything like me those two things combined with a nice face (ass) is enough to make you wanna marry this girl. BUT she’s the same with everyone, she’s texting a few fellas and they’re all thinking the same.. I’m in there, she wants a piece of this.. look at the amount of winky faces she’s giving me ehhh!! Hahaha yeno the craic…

Meanwhile she’s screenshotting everything your sappy ass sends her and sending it to her girlos in a groupchat being like “awww bless” and the rest of them are ripping the complete piss out of you. You’re a goner dude. Game over.

To me getting played by one of these bitches is worse than being stuck in the friend zone for all of eternity.

ITS NOT CHRISTMAS BUT I CAN MAKE YA MY X MISS !!

I’m not saying girls can’t flirt and have fun without it having to lead somewhere but these bitches go one further, they make you trust them, open up to them, fall in love with them but in reality you actually don’t mean anything to them man. You’re just another fella that’s probably going to hurt her down the line anyway so she’ll cut it off when it gets “too much” and he’s proper fallen for her which leaves him heartbroken, hating on bitches and vowing to be an asshole for the rest of his life ha..sad face…

It’s a pretty bad circle to be stuck in.. You’ve got hurt before and you don’t want that to happen again so YOU do the hurting, fuck them.. Boys don’t have feelings! Haha they don’t care! They only want sex anyway…Hmmmm

I’ve learnt to try avoid these girlos but they are quite good at the game, and sometimes mans be weak. But if a bitch starts playing me I’ll play her twice as hard because after all .. Lads are pros at it anyway 😉

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All jokes aside, it’s not a good way to live life and it’s just a fucking shitty way to treat people. Nothing I value more than someone who is outstraight about how they feel.. No need for the mind games ..She loves me..She loves me not kinda shit …

Nobody got time for that

But if your girls a hairdresser fucking keep her cause free cuts man! She can do what she likes better than paying 15 quid every 2 weeks hahaha😉

Respect each other

All you fuckboys and fuckgirls .. Karma will get ya 😊

Laters !!

Isn’t it scary

Isn’t it scary how we can never tell what a person is really thinking?

Isn’t it scary how the person we think loves themselves, despises every part of their body?

Isn’t it scary that we would never know that someone cries themselves to sleep every night but they are so cheerful in the day…

Isn’t it scary to think about the amount of stuff you’ve gone through in your life..everyone else has gone through stuff too, nobody gets out without a scar.

Isn’t it scary how some people think money=happiness .. Including myself for awhile, but now that I have money I know that it doesn’t. You can’t fill your heart with material things, you need to fill your heart with love.

Isn’t it scary how you can date a girl that seems really nice and innocent but can turn into a psycho ex FAST? Hahaha.. That ones kind of a joke..

Isn’t it scary that none of us know each other’s daily struggles and it stays within us until we choose to tell someone..

Isn’t it scary that the person who laughs the most and the loudest could be feeling extremely lonely inside.

Isn’t it scary to think that even though we are all born into this world the exact same way with no choice in the matter..some people believe they are better than others because of their race, religion, gender, wealth, intelligence, sexuality, the family they came from, the location of their house, any other reason people judge people.

Isn’t it scary to think that some people would read this, not flinch and continue to be a shit human with disregard for others.

Isn’t it scary to KNOW that people can slowly break down throughout life because of other people’s unkindness and the worlds cruelty. The dreams that they had as a little boy/girl and teenager slowly die inside them until there’s nothing left and they give up.

This could be happening to anybody you know. It’s not easy to see and it’s not up to you to analyse someone but what you can do is be kinder towards everyone you come across. We all face battles everyday and some of us are stronger than others, but there is no need to make life harder by being a shit human. Life=Life.. Every single persons life in this world matters and we are all equal.

We can never know what people go through day to day but we can make their day easier by not judging and being unkind in any way. Think before you act/speak. Don’t play on and point out people’s insecurities. Don’t whisper and laugh about people you see passing by. You wouldn’t like that done to you so don’t do it to someone else. Nobody should feel like if they are going to be themselves they’re going to get abuse. Everybody should have the chance and the confidence to be the way that’s most comfortable to them.

To me, someone’s dreams dying is very unfortunate.

Someone dying as a result of that is an absolute tragedy.

Don’t fuel the fire, be happy be kind and help people, there’s enough problems in this world.. We don’t need to create any more.

Keep your dreams alive and stay on track!

Peace x x

It’s in your eyes

“I can see it in your eyes”

“Your eyes tell a different story”

I’ve heard these two phrases a number of times over the bank holiday weekend just passed. I also said it to someone myself. Those words have been ringing in my head for some reason.. And I’m starting to think about why that is so let me take you through my thought process..

I guess you can tell everything from someone’s eyes. You can see happiness, sadness, pain, joy, anger, fear, loneliness…or sometimes nothing at all. My eyes betray a lot of the emotions I’m trying to hide. I think this runs through my family. My ma is a very hard woman who would rarely cry but I know she is very very sad inside.

When I was growing up we would have arguments that I knew were killing her from her eyes, I could see the strain it was causing, but on the outside she acted like she did not give one fuck. Over the weekend I saw that my nana can be like that too.. But what I saw in my nana’s eyes was genuine fear. It broke my heart. But what breaks my heart even more is that she hid that and portrayed to me that she didn’t care and “I can do what I want”. I really really hate when people don’t admit how they actually feel.. If everyone did, the world would be so much clearer for a lot of people.

More than anything else someone’s eyes are a window to their soul, I think people carry what they’ve gone through in their eyes, they tell their own story and they show the true emotion inside the person.

I’ve heard those phrases over the weekend because it was a drug-fuelled couple of days for me and I was on a bit of binge. What I remember from the weekend is complaining that the drugs weren’t hitting me and my mates saying to me your eyes are telling a different story dean.. Because they were obviously in the back of my head, which is a little scary tbh. Then I blacked out and I really only remember tiny bits of the past three days. But enough about all that shiiiit…

Personally..I think it’s amazing that two little shapes in your face can tell a lifetime of stories. There can be so much life in someone’s eyes.. Or they can seem dead and it feels like they’re looking through you. My ma has started to get that look. It’s mostly from drugs and years of going without help for anything.. She’s started to die inside and you can see that in her eyes. Hope and happiness have completely left her body. I never want that to happen to me or anyone else I know… Because to be honest I don’t know if you can ever get that light back in your eyes and that’s a tragedy to me.

I think it’s important to not hide your real emotions and feelings and I know it’s hard but half the time the other person already knows how you really feel so you might as well tell the truth. 😊

I think that’s all from me.. Look after yourselves .. And don’t let the light die.

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Laters x