When your minds racing at this time of night with a million and one thoughts making you break into a sweat and panic.. you gotta make a decision drunk or sober there needs to be a conclusion… Life can’t fucking go on like this..
Night time shows you everything that’s hidden in daytime .. The pain your forced to mask during the day comes alive .. It takes over and shows you how weak you really are….The heart ache and worry you try to kill with drink and drugs will haunt you in your hangovers and come downs, it’s a never ending circle.. Unless you end that circle…
Stop the world I want to get off
The world will keep on turning and the sun will always rise tomorrow.
Peace x Dean
Well May 17th is coming to an end which means my deadline is here and my journey of 18 days is over. I’ve made my decision and my plans for tomorrow and I’m happy with it. My mind is clear as crystal and all of the stress that’s built up on me the last while has been lifted off my shoulders.
The past 18 days have been extremely eventful and I’m glad that I was super busy and did the things I always wanted to do. I’ve gotten a lot of advice and inspiration from a load of people the past few weeks including my best mates and my family and I can’t explain enough how much every word meant to me. Kindness is never forgotten and I will never forget how much you all did for me.
My mood and thoughts certainly changed numerous times over the last few weeks. Right now though I feel as though I am in a better place than I was on the 1st of May. I have peace of mind for just about everything in my life.
I started blogging nearly a year ago and from reading my past blogs I can see how much I’ve changed myself and how much I’ve stayed the same. With regard to love, well I think that was a game I was always going to lose. It’s the most amazing and dangerous thing in the whole world, and I’m sure the feeling is indescribable when you find the right person but unfortunately that hasn’t happened. With family, I love them like nothing else on this planet and the only girl that has a lasting place in my heart is my nana. My dad is my hero and he is the bravest and strongest man I know. My little bro is going to be a better man than I’ll ever be. I love both of my brothers, equally. My music has been my best friend since the beginning of my life it’s been there at the best of times and the worst of times and it’s definitely pulled me through some painful situations.
I still stand by everything I said in each blog and I’m proud of myself for being able to finally express myself in a way I actually found easy after not being able to do it for so many years. I’m so glad I started blogging because it’s a great outlet to get your thoughts off your chest when there’s no one else to turn to and even better when people relate.
This will be my last ‘thought’ for a while. I’m going away and I won’t be blogging, thanks for reading this and if you read my other ones thank you again. Hopefully some helped or made you laugh or even made you feel like you weren’t alone because you felt the same as me, if any of those things happened I’d be seriously delighted.
Better stop rambling, Happy May 18th everyone. Have a fantastic summer and be safe and be happy 😊
I was talking to my friend today about her 8 year relationship that is inevitably going to be over soon. Her boyfriend has been treating her like shit for months now and he spends all of his time with other girls. He has no intention of changing his ways and in fairness to him he’s tried to leave the relationship but has never fully gone through with it. My friend is doing everything she can to keep this guy. Nearly accepting that he is clearly cheating and psyching herself up to stay with him no matter what and making millions of excuses for him. I constantly tell her that she has to leave, it’s going nowhere and she can do so much better but she doesn’t listen. So why is it that she desperately wants to stay with this guy who obviously doesn’t care about her? She’s only 24 so she has plenty of time to find loads of new lads and she definitely wouldn’t be short on offers but she’s desperate to make it work with this guy that is driving her to breaking point. Why?
I kept asking myself this over and over because I just couldn’t understand why she would put herself through that. Then I realised. I do the exact same thing. It’s in different situations but I act and feel the same way she does. I find it so hard to get over people that don’t give a shit about me and I’m constantly questioning everything that went wrong and thinking about what ifs when they aren’t giving me one thought. I want the people back in my life that walked out voluntarily. Why?! I should hate these people and part of me does but part of me desperately wants them to want me back. I can’t be the only one? It’s so confusing because one minute I can be like I fucking hate those stupid bitches and I turn into rapper Big Sean singing ‘I Don’t Fuck With Youuuu!!” word for word hahaha… aaaand then I start missing them again. I feel guilty because I should be grateful for the people that do care about me and don’t get me wrong I AM extremely grateful, but I find it so easy to ignore a text message from someone that is clearly interested in being a part of my life while at the same time finding it so hard to let go of people that want nothing to do with me. It’s fucked up. I’m fucked up, and I’m a massive fucking hypocrite.
You accept the love you think you deserve. I don’t know if it’s just a case of wanting what you can’t have or what but it’s a messed up situation that leads to a serious amount of unhappiness. It could be my disorder fucking me up again like “I hate you, don’t leave me” and maybe a part of it is to do with my BPD but I’m not sure all of it is because my friend has nothing wrong with her and she’s feeling the same way as me. I would love nothing more than to forget the people that have done me wrong and not let them entertain my thoughts and DEFINITELY not miss them but unfortunately for some fucked up reason I’m not in that place at the moment but I hope someday I will learn how to let people go and completely forget them. That will be the day.. I can give advice and actually believe in it and trust that it works..because how can I tell someone to leave a painful situation when I can’t even do it myself 😔
When you love someone, even if there are a million reasons to leave, you still look for that one reason to stay.
I guess we all just want to be loved. The fear that we will never find love with someone else causes us to hold on to what’s left with someone even if it’s destroying you and you know in your heart that you should leave. Question is, are you strong enough to save yourself?
I’m not at the moment, but I will be. I promise myself I will never be in this position again. I need to learn to love myself enough to let go of things that aren’t good for me, and never EVER look fucking back.
This song is one of my favourite songs in the whole world and it completely explains how I feel, word for word.
If you can relate to what I’m saying I hope you are strong enough too.
In this world, to get by, you’d want to have a metaphorical shield made of steel so that you could face anything life throws at you and it doesn’t dent your armor. Unfortunately I feel as though my shield is made of marshmallows and life has dented me quite a bit. There is very little of my shield left to be honest, and if things stay the way they are, I’ll lose the battle.
I find it extremely difficult to figure out the right thing to do in life. I make millions of plans and try stick to them, but it makes very little difference. Somehow, things always go off course. So I start thinking whats the point? I mean it must be me that’s the problem since everybody else seems to be doing just fine and I’m the one who’s left feeling like this all the time?
The last few nights I haven’t slept a wink, my minds been racing and I’ve watched loads of documentaries on BPD which have made me so angry. Most of them are for people that unfortunately know us and it’s telling them how to “deal” with us. Then it goes on to describe us, how we go after weaker people and manipulate them until they are stuck in this horrendous relationship. The worst part about those documentaries and what angers me is that it’s mostly true, and I hate myself for it. It’s not like I planned it this way or I do it on purpose its just part of my nature because I have this disorder. If I hate myself this much for just being this way its no wonder many others hate me too. The saddest part of the documentaries is when it basically says there is no cure. Sure, things usually get better with counselling etc but the disorder never really goes away. I feel like I was cheated out of life..I know if this disorder wasn’t a piece of my brain I would be flying. I used to be such an easy-going guy who was literally always laughing. I never stressed over anything, I had loads of mates and girls on the go and my life was just about having fun. Yeah I had problems, but I had the confidence and the mindset that allowed me to deal with those. Sixteen just held such better days. Nowadays its not the same. I fake smiles and laughs and I force myself to be that guy again and I force myself to do the things I used to love but I just can’t anymore. It’s worn me down.
So I’ve given myself a deadline, 18 days. May 18th. I’m going to try my hardest to give it one last shot and fix this. I will do everything I can and everything that is suggested to me to get back to being the lad I once was. If it works I won’t need a shield at all, I’d have the power to take on the world all on my own. I want to laugh until I can’t breathe anymore, I want to get excited for things and have joy in my heart and feel alive. I don’t want to be afraid of love I want to find it and treasure it forever. It sounds like I need a miracle but I owe myself one last try. If it doesn’t work and things haven’t taken a turn for the better by the 18th then my shield will be well and truly destroyed.